Ok, in daily Hack 30 we learned how to set goals properly, however in order to increase our chances of success, we need to do a few extra things!
We’ve taken some inspiration from this article, which is about self-authoring and how this has had a dramatic improvement on academic performance for those students who have completed this exercise. If you are interested in learning more you can go to the Self Authoring website.
why are these extra 'bits' important?
Having a clearly stated SMART goal will only get you so far, there are some key additional steps you can take that will dramatically improve your chances of success.
so how to teach our kids?
Seeing is quite literally believing. Picture yourself achieving your goal, see yourself in your mind and then float inside your body as you achieve your objective. How do you feel? What can you see? What can you hear? What words are you saying? The more ‘real’ you can make this experience the more that you prime yourself for success. Research has shown that by visualising in this way, your brain creates and then reinforces neural pathways, which in turn help prime your behaviour which helps you towards achieving the goal.
Regular Remindersregularly check in- daily if possible
Ideally, you want to be reminding yourself of your goal each day and preferably in the morning. Tony Robbins has a morning routine where he focuses on the 3 things that he is trying to achieve. That way you are setting your unconscious brain up to notice and act upon the things that happen throughout the day they will help you move towards your objectives.Skills and Experience Analysis
It’s good to write down the things that will help you to achieve your goal, particularly if it’s a little on the daunting side. What skills and attributes do you possess? What experience can you draw upon that will help you? This exercise probably only needs to be done at the beginning when setting the goal, but it’s nice to check-in and remind yourself once in a while.Resources You Will Need
This too is important as it helps you to identify areas that might prove problematic if you don’t do anything about them. What will you need to learn and develop? Will you need help or is it sensible to enlist some help, if so, who?Progress Updates
Particularly important for big goals, regular progress reports can be extremely motivating. breaking down larger goals into smaller more manageable chunks is sensible. So at the beginning of each week you should have a little checklist:
how did I do compared to my action plan last week?
if I didn’t achieve what I set out to, how can I make sure that I do this week?
what do I want to achieve this week and does it fit with the bigger goal?
what resources will I need?
what is the next step that I need to take?
This is an important and often overlooked part of goal setting, thinking about what could get in the way. Something inevitably will get in the way and if you have already thought about it and thought about how you will overcome it you are primed and full of resilience for when the going gets tough. What obstacles do you foresee? How will you overcome them if/when they happen? What other strategies could you use?
the daily lifehack summary
Teach your kids how to set goals- part 2:
Step 1: Visualise your goals.
Step 2: Review regularly- preferably each day.
Step 3: Analyse your resources.
Step 4: What resources will you need?
Step 5: Weekly Progress updates.
Step 6: Work out obstacles and strategies to overcome them in advance.
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