[vc_row row_type=”3″ blox_image=”11754″ align_center=”aligncenter” page_title=”page-title-x” blox_padding_bottom=”50″][vc_column][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_empty_space][vc_empty_space height=”35px”][vc_custom_heading text=”module 2: connect resilience to your family values” font_container=”tag:h2|text_align:center|color:%23203e4a” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_empty_space][vc_empty_space][vc_custom_heading text=”introduction” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]This module has the potential to be the most powerful module in the course. Understanding your values has a huge impact on behaviour and this will help your child to understand why resilience is important to them, you  and as a family.

Step 1: Introduction. Why values are important.

Step 2: Manifesto. Understand your values around resilience.

Step 3: Use it. How to use the manifesto.

Step 4: Create. Your own manifesto.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”what you will need” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text] A Notebook

The Manifesto questionnaire is online so no notebook required, but a notebook is always handy to have, to keep track of your child’s progress and make note of any questions they ask that you’re not sure how to answer in the moment.

Time.

We recommend nominating a specific day to focus on Resilience, so that each week you have time allocated to this course. We found that a family mealtime was a great opportunity for us to do the Resilience Manifesto Questionnaire.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”step 1: why values are important” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]The aim is for our kids to be resilient and the only true measure of this is how they behave.

Behaviour however, is only the outward manifestation of what’s happening on the inside.

If you truly want to have a lasting influence on your kids, then you have to dig a little deeper and focus your efforts on the very things that produce behaviour in the first place: values.

Your values drive your beliefs, your thoughts, your emotional state and your behaviour.

Your values define what is important to you and what isn’t.

Having clarity on your values around resilience and why it’s important for your child and your family, will have the biggest effect on their behaviour.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”values: your secret weapon” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]Values drive every decision and action you take, your choice of career, the car you drive, where you live, even the clothes you are wearing have all been influenced by your values.

We tend not to realise this because our values remain hidden away in our subconscious.

For most of us, this means sleepwalking through life not really understanding what truly motivates us, which can often lead us to make less than optimal choices.

However, if you take the time to understand, define and clarify your values, you develop your own personal internal compass that will guide you through every action and decision, as Roy E. Disney said:

It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.

This is what we want to do with our kids and resilience, help them to make the right decisions, because they understand what their values are with regards to resilience.

If you can help your kids to understand what is important about resilience and why, you will give them a personal framework they can use for the rest of their life.

How did we do this with our kids?[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”create a family resilience manifesto” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]Don’t worry, we aren’t suggesting that you start your own political party.

Instead, the idea is to discuss what resilience means to you and your kids and to encapsulate these thoughts into a document that will provide your family with an internal compass which will guide your thoughts, focus, decisions and actions.

A code of behaviour that can motivate and inspire your family to make the right resilient choices.

Here’s ours:

family resilience manifesto[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”how to use it” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]STEP 1: DISCUSS and DECIDE

It’s important to bring values out into the open. You can discuss subjects such as success, failure, attitude, work ethic, dealing with problems, talent vs effort etc… The point of this exercise is to find common ground so that everyone understands what’s important about these subject areas and why.

To help, we’ve designed a simple and fun questionnaire that will guide you through this process.[/vc_column_text][vc_btn title=”launch questionnaire” style=”outline-custom” outline_custom_color=”#c3879f” outline_custom_hover_background=”#203e4a” outline_custom_hover_text=”#ffffff” shape=”square” size=”lg” align=”center” i_align=”right” i_icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right” add_icon=”true” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Flifehacksforkids.typeform.com%2Fto%2Fu40pqW||target:%20_blank”][vc_column_text]STEP 2: DISPLAY

Once we’d had our discussion, we designed and printed out our manifesto.  We then all signed it and stuck it on our fridge, pride of place where we spend most of our ‘together’ time. We also stuck one up in each bedroom to serve as a regular reminder.

The idea is that by having the values there, as a physical thing, writ large for all to see, discussed, and signed for- holds us all to a higher behavioural standard.

Trust me, if your behaviour deviates (even for a moment) from your values manifesto, the little buggers treasures will take great delight in letting you know.

Now you have a blueprint for what your family stands for and believes in, you own a compass that will guide all your future actions and decisions.

Very Powerful stuff.

(For more info you can read our article on Values here)[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”want your own manifesto?” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]If you would like a personalised one, either with your family name, photo, or own values just click on the button below.[/vc_column_text][vc_btn title=”launch questionnaire” style=”outline-custom” outline_custom_color=”#c3879f” outline_custom_hover_background=”#203e4a” outline_custom_hover_text=”#ffffff” shape=”square” size=”lg” align=”center” i_align=”right” i_icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right” add_icon=”true” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Flifehacksforkids.typeform.com%2Fto%2Fxc6lKj||target:%20_blank”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”end of module” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”][vc_column_text]Great work, well done.

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You can ask questions and get tips and insights from us and it’s a great opportunity to get suggestions and ideas from other parents.[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_btn title=”Back to Course Content” style=”outline-custom” outline_custom_color=”#c3879f” outline_custom_hover_background=”#203e4a” outline_custom_hover_text=”#ffffff” shape=”square” size=”lg” align=”center” i_icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-left” add_icon=”true” link=”url:http%3A%2F%2Flifehacksforkids.co.uk%2Fresilience-boot-camp-course-contents%2F||target:%20_blank”][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_btn title=”Access Private Facebook Group” style=”outline-custom” outline_custom_color=”#c3879f” outline_custom_hover_background=”#203e4a” outline_custom_hover_text=”#ffffff” shape=”square” size=”lg” align=”center” i_align=”right” i_icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right” add_icon=”true” link=”url:https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fgroups%2F1849992241885133%2F%3Fsource_id%3D981354675250740||target:%20_blank”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_empty_space height=”62px”][vc_custom_heading text=”questions or thoughts? please get in touch:” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:center|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_separator color=”custom” el_width=”10″ accent_color=”#58646d”]

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