Teach your kids how to fail teach your kids
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”inspiration” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Today we’ve been inspired by this TED talk by the wonderfully named Astro Teller, head of Google X (now just X) and how they use failure as motivation and as a ‘reward system’ in order to get the results they want.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_raw_html]JTNDaWZyYW1lJTIwc3JjJTNEJTIyaHR0cHMlM0ElMkYlMkZlbWJlZC1zc2wudGVkLmNvbSUyRnRhbGtzJTJGYXN0cm9fdGVsbGVyX3RoZV91bmV4cGVjdGVkX2JlbmVmaXRfb2ZfY2VsZWJyYXRpbmdfZmFpbHVyZS5odG1sJTIyJTIwd2lkdGglM0QlMjIzNTIlMjIlMjBoZWlnaHQlM0QlMjIyMTAlMjIlMjBmcmFtZWJvcmRlciUzRCUyMjAlMjIlMjBzY3JvbGxpbmclM0QlMjJubyUyMiUyMHdlYmtpdEFsbG93RnVsbFNjcmVlbiUyMG1vemFsbG93ZnVsbHNjcmVlbiUyMGFsbG93RnVsbFNjcmVlbiUzRSUzQyUyRmlmcmFtZSUzRQ==[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”the fear of failure” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Whether it was ‘not applying for that dream job’, or ‘living the life your parents wanted for you rather than the life you wanted’, or ‘not taking any risks and living life in your comfort zone’, there are no doubt quite a few choices we have made that in hindsight, we might wish that we’d have done differently.

Our fear of failure has is rooted in an altogether more primal fear, namely the fear of not being ‘good enough’. This fear attacks the very fundamental core of our being, if we are not ‘good enough’ as a person, what does that mean for who we are and our place in the world?

Clearly these are not thoughts or feelings that we would necessarily want to visit on a regular basis and yet anything that we have achieved in life we have danced with the possibility of failure in order to do so.[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”so how to teach our kids?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]At lifehacksforkids we believe that if we encourage our kids to see failure as simply a temporary stop on the journey of discovery, rather than it being the destination itself, helps our kids to have a healthy consideration of failure and to develop a ‘growth mindset’. The daily lifehack today was inspired by a great article we read about Sara Blakely the inventor of Spanx.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8371″ img_size=”full”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_column_text]She describes how she was encouraged to fail by her father, who would ask her and her brother each week to tell him what they’d failed at. If they couldn’t come up with anything he’d be disappointed and if they did, he would high-five them.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”key learning points” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]It’s not enough just to ask our kids if they have failed at something, Blakey’s father did two very important things when his kids told him they’d failed.

First of all, he created his own ‘reward system’, so failure was celebrated as a success and not having failed was in fact, a failure. (This also is a key element of Google X, the reward system- recognition, bonuses- is based on failing).

Secondly, he taught his children to re-frame their failure as a learning opportunity. He would ask them to tell him about their failure and then write down what they had got from the experience.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”the daily lifehack” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1465215933535{padding: 40px !important;background-color: #ce879f !important;border: 3px solid #58646d !important;}”]

Teach your kids how to fail:

Step 1: Ask your kids ‘what have you failed at this week?’
Step 2: Have a system that rewards them for failing.
Step 3: Ask them to tell you what they learned.
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