Teach your kids how to win the game of persuasion- with a single word teach your kids
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”inspiration” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Today we’ve been inspired by this talk by Elizabeth Stokoe, Professor of Social Interaction at Loughborough University. She is a conversation analyst helping people to identify what works and what doesn’t, in conversations.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_raw_html]JTNDaWZyYW1lJTIwd2lkdGglM0QlMjIzNTIlMjIlMjBoZWlnaHQlM0QlMjIyMTAlMjIlMjBzcmMlM0QlMjJodHRwcyUzQSUyRiUyRnd3dy55b3V0dWJlLmNvbSUyRmVtYmVkJTJGUlViZDlSelg5dTAlM0ZyZWwlM0QwJTIyJTIwZnJhbWVib3JkZXIlM0QlMjIwJTIyJTIwYWxsb3dmdWxsc2NyZWVuJTNFJTNDJTJGaWZyYW1lJTNF[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”the power of a single word” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]The part of this talk that sparked our interest starts at 4 minutes in. Professor Stokoe recalls an experience she had working with a mediation service, that helped people to resole disputes with their neighbour. She found that by asking whether people were ‘willing’ to mediate, the chances of the two sides meeting round the table to discuss their particular issue increased dramatically. In fact, it shifted people who had previously said ‘no’ all the way across to a ‘yes’.[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”so how to teach our kids?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]So the power word is ‘willing’ . Instead of asking ‘can you’ or ‘will you’, we simply ask instead… ‘would you be willing to …..?’. Practice it at home, although it will lose effectiveness if everyone is doing it, it will get kids into the habit of using it.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8404″ img_size=”full”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”key learning points” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]In her findings Professor Stokoe found that:

  • the word “willing” got the strongest positive response

  • only the word “willing” got complete turnarounds from a ‘no’ to a ‘yes’

You might want to keep this one to yourself so you have a persuasive advantage over your kids! Try it out in your own life and let us know how you got on.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”the daily lifehack summary” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1465232209764{border-top-width: 3px !important;border-right-width: 3px !important;border-bottom-width: 3px !important;border-left-width: 3px !important;padding-top: 40px !important;padding-right: 40px !important;padding-bottom: 40px !important;padding-left: 40px !important;background-color: #ce879f !important;border-left-color: #58646d !important;border-left-style: solid !important;border-right-color: #58646d !important;border-right-style: solid !important;border-top-color: #58646d !important;border-top-style: solid !important;border-bottom-color: #58646d !important;border-bottom-style: solid !important;}”]

The persuasive power of a single word:

Rather than ask someone ‘could you please do x?’ 
Or asking them ‘would you mind doing y for me?’
Ask them instead ‘would you be willing to do z?’
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