Set your kids up for success- teach them the ‘progress principle’. teach your kids
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”inspiration” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Today we’ve been inspired by this fabulous article which is about the benefit of influencing the background narritive of your mind. Not sure about yours but over at Lifehacksforkids towers, we often find that our minds are pretty good at focussing on what we do that’s not quite right (aka wrong) and less good at noticing what we do well- our successes. According to this article, we aren’t alone.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”the progress principle” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700″][vc_column_text]Over a period of 15 years the authors studied some 12,000 diary entries of hundreds of employees across 7 different companies and found that “Of all the things that can boost emotions, motivation, and perceptions during a workday, the single most important is making progress in meaningful work.  And the more frequently people experience that sense of progress, the more likely they are to be creatively productive in the long run. … everyday progress—even a small win—can make all the difference in how [people] feel and perform.”[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”so how to teach our kids?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]So the key it seems is to activate the reward circuitry of our brains by constantly reminding ‘it’ of our victories, no matter how small. Not only does this seems to make perfect rational sense, it works on a biological level too. ‘Feel-good’ chemicals and neurotransmitters such as dopamine are released, giving us that feel good sensation.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8371″ img_size=”full”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_column_text]One of the ways that we try to do this with our two is to record their achievements for posterity. One of the nicest ways we’ve found of doing this is by using the online keepsake ‘keepy‘. You can record an event with a photograph or a video and have it as a permanent record. The nice thing about it is the kids can write a note as their own personal memento, and you can also invite friends and relatives to view and comment too.

(for clarity we have no affiliation with keepy, there are most probably other apps you can use, it’s just the one we use).
[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”key learning points” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]When your child makes progress, no matter how small or trivial, make a record of it. Build up those neural networks, so that act as a reminder and create a positive internal narrative for your kids. Involve grandparents, friends, other relatives, the more people that share and enjoy the experience, the more positive the reinforcement.

One note of caution, be careful with regards to what you reward and recognise. You want to reward things that your child can influence such as:

  • courage and bravery

  • effort

  • strategy, creativity, thinking

It’s best to avoid praise for outcome based events, or for effort when that effort is the expected norm- for clarity on what you should and shouldn’t praise, please read this article.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”the daily lifehack summary” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1465382011614{border-top-width: 3px !important;border-right-width: 3px !important;border-bottom-width: 3px !important;border-left-width: 3px !important;padding-top: 40px !important;padding-right: 40px !important;padding-bottom: 40px !important;padding-left: 40px !important;background-color: #ce879f !important;border-left-color: #58646d !important;border-left-style: solid !important;border-right-color: #58646d !important;border-right-style: solid !important;border-top-color: #58646d !important;border-top-style: solid !important;border-bottom-color: #58646d !important;border-bottom-style: solid !important;}”]

Teach your kids the ‘progress principle’:

Step 1: Record their successes for posterity’.
Step 2: Involve friends and family for reinforcement.
Step 3: Praise the right things.
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