Teach your kids the importance of delayed gratification. teach your kids
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”inspiration” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Today we’ve been inspired by this article in Fast Company, which talks about 3 scientifically proven behaviours that lead to success:

  1. having a growth mindset

  2. delayed gratification

  3. resilience

Having daily hacked number 1 yesterday and with number 3 being a hack in the pipeline, we decided to talk about number 2 today- delayed gratification.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”why is delayed gratification important?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]As a former financial adviser, I witnessed first hand the financial problems caused by not possessing the ability to ‘do something that your future self will thank you for’. Research tells us that children who possess this ability enjoy significant advantages over those that don’t, including higher academic and social performance.

Indeed, the article also states that this ability is closely correlated to success, as you know yourself, most significant goals require hard work and dedication over a long period of time.[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_custom_heading text=”so how to teach our kids?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Enter the ‘Marshmallow Experiment’! We have embedded a Ted talk, based on this famous experiment in which kids were offered a marshmallow and were told to wait for a short time. If they did so, without eating the sweet, they were told that they would be given another. The researchers then leave the room and secretly watch what the kids do.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_empty_space height=”42px”][vc_raw_html]JTNDaWZyYW1lJTIwd2lkdGglM0QlMjIzNTIlMjIlMjBoZWlnaHQlM0QlMjI0MTUlMjIlMjBzcmMlM0QlMjJodHRwcyUzQSUyRiUyRnd3dy55b3V0dWJlLmNvbSUyRmVtYmVkJTJGalZROGJpQVZlVTAlM0ZyZWwlM0QwJTIyJTIwZnJhbWVib3JkZXIlM0QlMjIwJTIyJTIwYWxsb3dmdWxsc2NyZWVuJTNFJTNDJTJGaWZyYW1lJTNF[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”the exercise” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Here’s how we replicated this experiment with our kids. We kicked off proceedings by watching the TED talk (without the kids) in order to prepare. We then set up the experiment with our kids favourite treat (cookies) and hid our phones (set to record) so we could watch what they did afterwards. We didn’t tell them about the phone as we didn’t want to affect their behaviour.

When they finished the experiment we let them watch the TED talk (which they found hilarious) and we then showed them the video that we had taken of them. Our kids took great pleasure in watching the experiment but seeing themselves do it amused them even more, they also loved watching each other do it.

Allowing them to compare and contrast their behaviour with that of the kids in the film, meant that they realised that deciding to wait (or not as the case may be), was an active choice that they made.

We still laugh about the experiment to this day and it had a lasting impact on their attitude to waiting for stuff. That’s not to say that they are angels, just that they understand that they need to wait sometimes and if they forget, we just mention the ‘Marshmallow Experiment’ and that does the trick.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”the daily lifehack summary” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1465400471302{border-top-width: 3px !important;border-right-width: 3px !important;border-bottom-width: 3px !important;border-left-width: 3px !important;padding-top: 40px !important;padding-right: 40px !important;padding-bottom: 40px !important;padding-left: 40px !important;background-color: #ce879f !important;border-left-color: #58646d !important;border-left-style: solid !important;border-right-color: #58646d !important;border-right-style: solid !important;border-top-color: #58646d !important;border-top-style: solid !important;border-bottom-color: #58646d !important;border-bottom-style: solid !important;}”]

Teach your kids the skill of delayed gratification:

Step 1: Do the Marshmallow Experiment
Step 1: Show them the TED talk
Step 3: Show them how they did and discuss
Step 4: Remind them of the Marshmallow Experiment in the future when they don’t want to wait
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