Don’t think of a blue tree. Teach your kids the power of positive language. teach your kids
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”inspiration” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]You did, didn’t you? We did, you can’t help yourself. It turns out that the way that you say something can have a direct psychological influence on whether we achieve something or not. Today we’ve been inspired by this article in Entrepreneur.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”why is this important?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]The article argues that by framing something in a negative way, in this instance by saying ‘don’t’, you actually instruct your brain to start thinking about the very thing that you don’t want it to.

Whilst we don’t know if from a scientific standpoint this is true, on one level at least it makes sense, positive thoughts and a positive attitude are more useful in helping us to achieve the things that we want in life, than negative ones.[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”so how to teach our kids?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]So, we like the idea that framing thoughts and statements in a positive way is better for our mental state than doing so negatively. The key then is to listen out for those moments when our children are using these words and then to help them to frame what they just said in a positive way. The 3 most important words that you need to listen out for are:

  1. can’t

  2. won’t

  3. don’t

[/vc_column_text][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_custom_heading text=”so what should we do instead?” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]What you need to do is turn the statement back on itself with a question (just like we did with this paragraph heading. So when you hear one of the 3 magic negative words, you ask your child what they can/ could/ will/ do instead. Some examples

If you hear “I can’t do this”, you say “If you could do this, what would you do instead?”, or “Assuming you could do this, what action would you take?”.

If you hear “I don’t want to X”, you say “What do you want instead?”.

If you hear “I don’t know”, you could say “If you did know, what would you say/do instead?”.

“I won’t do/say that”, becomes “What would you prefer to do/ say?”.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”the daily lifehack summary” font_container=”tag:h4|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1465905978391{border-top-width: 3px !important;border-right-width: 3px !important;border-bottom-width: 3px !important;border-left-width: 3px !important;padding-top: 40px !important;padding-right: 40px !important;padding-bottom: 40px !important;padding-left: 40px !important;background-color: #ce879f !important;border-left-color: #58646d !important;border-left-style: solid !important;border-right-color: #58646d !important;border-right-style: solid !important;border-top-color: #58646d !important;border-top-style: solid !important;border-bottom-color: #58646d !important;border-bottom-style: solid !important;}”]

Help your kids frame things positively:

If you hear: “I can’t, I won’t, or I don’t…”
Ask:“If you could- what would you do/say/think/feel instead?”
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