parent by design: programme

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parent by design

Think of a challenging experience you have had (or are having) with your child; if look closely, you'll see that the underlying cause will be one (or a combination) of the following:

  • 1
    Your approach or your way of thinking is responsible, or maybe your skills aren't quite as sharp as you'd like.
  • 2
    A lack of understanding- either you don't really understand your child and what they are going through and/or they are struggling with this themselves.
  • 3
    Your child doesn't yet possess the skills or resources to deal with the situation.

Excluding medical issues there can be no other cause, so we created the parent by design programme to help you make dramatic improvements across all three of these areas.

the problem

The problem is with our approach; as parents we think like mechanics instead of gardeners.

We try to diagnose and solve our kid's problems, or we correct their behaviour and mistakes- often using some form of 'carrot and stick' (aka bribe and threat) approach. 

The problems with this are:

  • 1
    It doesn't work very well, kids often keep making the same mistakes.
  • 2
    It's negative, which can knock your child's confidence and lead to an attritional relationship with your them.
  • 3
    It also focuses on the wrong thing, if you want to improve your kid's behaviour, you need to address the underlying cause, not try and change their behaviour.

the solution

As Einstein famously said: "You can't solve a problem with the same kind of thinking that created it."

So, rather than thinking like a mechanic, try thinking like a gardener instead.

  • A successful gardener plans ahead, they don't just hope for the best.
  • A successful gardener understands and works with nature, rather than force nature against it's will.
  • A successful gardener nurtures and feeds, they provide the conditions to help their plants flourish and grow.

Gardening is a longer-term parenting approach, but ultimately, it is a much more rewarding one.

parent by design: the programme

Our programme will help you to transform your approach- from mechanic to gardener. 

  • We'll help you to connect with what is most important to you and then plan ahead so that each day you improve your skills, and keep on top of your parenting.
  • You will work with your child to gain a deeper understanding of their true nature, their unique strengths and abilities, and what they are capable of. This will be the basis of a new and deeper relationship moving forward.
  • We'll show you how to provide the ideal conditions so that your child develops the skills and resources they need to flourish in school and beyond. As they become better equipped to deal with the challenges they face, their confidence and self-belief will grow and their behaviour will improve.
  • Finally, we'll show you how to incorporate all of this into a simple to follow daily and weekly routine, that will help you to feel more in control, be more consistent, have more energy and be a happier parent.

see for yourself

The full programme lasts 30 days, however, you can try the first 7 days of parent by design for FREE.
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