parent by design:
day 13: maybe you don't know best
There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children.
One of these is roots, the other, wings.
-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
a tricky balance
We like this quote from Goethe because it sums up the difficult balancing act that is parenthood, simultaneously trying to give our kids roots and wings.
Today we have an exercise for you that will help you think about your parenting approach and the thoughts and beliefs that underpin it; there are no right or wrong answers, our goal is simply to play devil's advocate.
As such, some of the questions are designed to challenge and be difficult; and it's the ones that make you feel the most uncomfortable which are the ones that you should pay more attention to.
Hopefully this exercise will give you some new information to work with and will help you to improve, even in some small way.
Just read each question and then observe the thoughts that come to mind.
Make notes if you wish, especially on the questions that provoke a reaction.
your relationship with them
is it about you or them?
what to do next
Hopefully that was a useful exercise, but what to do next?
Take the question that produced the biggest reaction inside of you, the one that disturbed you the most; now ask yourself the following questions: