Resilience: a Boot Camp for your kids

Module 3: Positivity

Parent/ Caregiver notes and tips.

hello again

Welcome to your 3rd Module.

We hope that you and your child enjoy it.

Please get in touch if you have any questions, comments or suggestions, we'd love to hear from you.

purpose of the module

There is a ton of research that points to a POSITIVE outlook having huge life benefits. For our purposes, research also shows that POSITIVITY is an essential part of being RESILIENT.

This module teaches your child a technique that helps them to develop their POSITIVITY and avoid falling into the 3 P's trap.

the 3 P's

Psychologist Martin Seligman tells us that when things go wrong PESSIMISTIC people tend to display certain traits to varying degrees:

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    PERMANENCE: This bad thing that happened will always be like this. (I'm never going to be able to do this). 
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    PERVASIVENESS: This bad situation will impact all areas of their life. (This means I'm a failure as a person). 
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    PERSONAL: It's their fault, they blame themselves. (I'm not good enough)

activity 1:
what to expect

3 P's

In this activity your child will learn and apply a technique that helps them to train their brain to do the OPPOSITE of the 3 P's. We teach them:

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    POSITIVITY:  'Although this bad thing happened, it wasn't ALL bad, something good came from it'.  This helps them understand that NOTHING is 100% bad forever.
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    LEARN: 'Although it was a bad situation, it's over and I've learned something as a result'.  This emphasises that the situation didn't last forever and didn't impact other areas in their life, in fact, they learned something.
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    DIFFERENT OPTIONS: ' I could have done different things and that would have produced a different outcome.' The message here is that they are in control of what they do and the outcomes they get. It's also a great creative thinking/ problem solving exercise- great training for life.

activity 1:
some tips

We aren't trying to trivialise or make light of difficult situations. Instead, by following this methodology your child will learn to be able to create some emotional space around events that don't always go to plan, with practice they will begin to see them as learning opportunities.

So, listen out for the 3 P's and when you hear them, tell your child to do their 123.

Print off the reminder below and stick it on your fridge!

7 DAY CHALLENGE:
what to expect

The purpose of the challenge is to help your child to build a positivity circuit. 

Your 'reality' becomes what you pay attention to, and this helps train their brain to actually notice positive things when they happen.

Just ask them 1 simple question as you are putting them to bed each night. 

What about today was good or positive?

Why not join in? It's a nice way to build your positivity circuit and share your day with your kid.

ready?

Ok, that's it.

Without further ado... it's time to start the 3rd module.

Good luck!