Resilience: a Boot Camp for your kids

Module 5: Who is driving your bus?

Parent/ Caregiver notes and tips.


Welcome to your 5th Module.

We hope that you and your child enjoy it.

Please get in touch if you have any questions, comments or suggestions, we'd love to hear from you.

purpose of the module

This module touches on a number of key aspects to being RESILIENT: self- motivation, autonomy, making decisions and taking responsibility.

That's a lot to squeeze in, but, by the end of the module your kids will:

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    Understand that they are in charge of what they think, say and do.
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    Learn to focus on the things that they CAN control rather than those they can't.
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    Develop their motivation by making lots of decisions and taking responsibility.

the science-y bit

In Charles Duhigg‘s bestselling book Smarter Faster Better, he says that motivation essentially is a question of control; if we feel that our decisions affect our outcomes, then we are much more likely to be motivated to take action.

This premise that underpins the module and we start with a few exercises to help your child understand that they are the ones driving their bus.

activity 1:
what to expect

Activity 1 asks your child to translate what they have learned from the exercises into hypothetical life situations.

We want them to develop their understanding of what they can do NEXT, thereby emphasising that THEY are the ones in CONTROL.

This is the key learning point- it's not what happens, it's what they do next that counts.

activity 1:
some tips

You can help to emphasising this learning point throughout the week ahead.

Whenever you hear them moaning, or blaming something/ someone else just ask them: 

 Can you control this? 
What can you do next? What's in your control?

what to expect

The purpose of the challenge is to help your child to develop their internal locus of control. We want them to make the connection that their decisions and their actions are directly correlated to their results. 

We do this by asking your child to make lots of decisions in all areas of their life. 


Keep asking your kids to make decisions, it doesn't matter what, it's the act of decision making itself that's the key.

Another great thing you can do for your kids is to get them to do chores. Apart from the obvious benefits :), it helps kids gain a send of competence which leads to autonomy, mastery and confidence in their abilities.

This from is a great list of age appropriate chores if, in the unlikely event, you are in need of any inspiration!


Ok, that's it.

Without further ado... it's time to start the module.

Good luck!