[vc_row row_type=”2″ blox_image=”6099″ align_center=”aligncenter” page_title=”page-title-x” blox_padding_top=”50″ blox_padding_bottom=”50″ row_pattern=”max-pat”][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”7/12″][vc_empty_space height=”120px”][vc_custom_heading text=”Resilience Boot Camp” font_container=”tag:h1|text_align:left|color:%23ffffff” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_custom_heading text=”module 4: re-write history” font_container=”tag:h2|text_align:left|color:%23ffffff” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”3/12″][vc_raw_html]JTNDaWZyYW1lJTIwc3JjJTNEJTIyaHR0cHMlM0ElMkYlMkZnaXBoeS5jb20lMkZlbWJlZCUyRm9YTUVRQVg0ZWxGQUklMjIlMjB3aWR0aCUzRCUyMjIwMCUyMiUyMGhlaWdodCUzRCUyMjIwMCUyMiUyMGZyYW1lQm9yZGVyJTNEJTIyMCUyMiUyMGNsYXNzJTNEJTIyZ2lwaHktZW1iZWQlMjIlMjBhbGxvd0Z1bGxTY3JlZW4lM0UlM0MlMkZpZnJhbWUlM0UlM0NwJTNFJTNDYSUyMGhyZWYlM0QlMjJodHRwcyUzQSUyRiUyRmdpcGh5LmNvbSUyRnN0aWNrZXJzJTJGZW5nbGFuZC1vWE1FUUFYNGVsRkFJJTIyJTNFdmlhJTIwR0lQSFklM0MlMkZhJTNFJTNDJTJGcCUzRQ==[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_separator color=”white”][vc_custom_heading text=”introduction” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Not just any old history mind you, but your own history.

Specifically, an incident in your life that did not go as well as you wanted it to.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”why are we re-writing history?” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]We all have situations in our lives where things don’t exactly go according to plan, in fact, sometimes things can be a disaster.

However, even if something felt really bad when it happened (maybe it still feels bad), there is ALWAYS a positive to be found if you look hard enough.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”what does re-writing history do?” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text] You will train your brain so that no matter how challenging the situation, it will always try and look for the positive.

By looking for the positives, you will be more hopeful and optimistic- 2 extremely important qualities of a resilient person.

Negative memories often cause us to be afraid to act, if your brain now has a more positive memory of the situation, this will help to positively influence your future behaviour.[/vc_column_text][vc_raw_html]JTNDaWZyYW1lJTIwc3JjJTNEJTIyaHR0cHMlM0ElMkYlMkZnaXBoeS5jb20lMkZlbWJlZCUyRnhUMHhlemx4TW5yTG8xc2FQZSUyMiUyMHdpZHRoJTNEJTIyNDgwJTIyJTIwaGVpZ2h0JTNEJTIyMzIyJTIyJTIwZnJhbWVCb3JkZXIlM0QlMjIwJTIyJTIwY2xhc3MlM0QlMjJnaXBoeS1lbWJlZCUyMiUyMGFsbG93RnVsbFNjcmVlbiUzRSUzQyUyRmlmcmFtZSUzRSUzQ3AlM0UlM0NhJTIwaHJlZiUzRCUyMmh0dHBzJTNBJTJGJTJGZ2lwaHkuY29tJTJGZ2lmcyUyRnhUMHhlemx4TW5yTG8xc2FQZSUyMiUzRXZpYSUyMEdJUEhZJTNDJTJGYSUzRSUzQyUyRnAlM0U=[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”3″ blox_image=”11720″ blox_padding_top=”25″ blox_padding_bottom=”25″ row_pattern=”max-pat”][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”what we are going to do” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]You are going to think of something that happened in your life that was a difficult experience for you.

It can be a period of time, or a specific incident.

You are going to write down why it was difficult and then, you are going to write down 3 positive things that happened as a result of that incident.

Make sense?[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_separator color=”white”][vc_custom_heading text=”here’s an example” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Let’s say that you had a big fall out with your best friend and you don’t speak anymore… now that’s a tough one.

You no doubt felt awful at the time, maybe even still do, and you’re probably thinking that there are absolutely NO positives.

But is that true?

maybe you’ve now found a new and better friend or friends

maybe you fell out over something you did, which you now know not to do again

maybe in hindsight, your friend wasn’t such a good friend after all

maybe you overreacted and won’t make the same mistake again[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row row_type=”3″ blox_padding_top=”25″ blox_padding_bottom=”25″ row_color=”#203e4a”][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”let’s do this” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]If you are working in a notebook, it’s time to start writing or please click here for our activity worksheet.

Describe the incident.

Describe how you felt.

Now write down at least 3 positive things that happened as a result of that incident.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_separator color=”white”][vc_custom_heading text=”summary” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]It’s important to remember that we are not trying to change what happened.

We are also not trying to make light of a difficult, or even a traumatic experience.

We are just trying to train our brain to recognise that even in the most difficult of situations, there is a positive.

In life there will always be challenging situations, a resilient person is someone who can overcome these challenges by looking for the positives and then acting.

This activity will help you to have a more positive and resilient approach moving forward.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”moving forward” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]So, the next time that you find yourself in a difficult or tricky situation (maybe you are facing one at the moment?), just ask yourself:

what can I find that is positive about this situation?

And see if you can come up with 3 or even 5 answers.

This will help your brain to focus on the positive, so that you can find a way out.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/12″][/vc_column][vc_column width=”10/12″][vc_custom_heading text=”end of the activity” font_container=”tag:h3|text_align:left|color:%23ce879f” google_fonts=”font_family:Oswald%3A300%2Cregular%2C700|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal”][vc_column_text]Great work, well done!

We hope that you enjoyed that exercise.

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