activity 3

how to be positive- even when things go wrong


why do we need to be positive?

Your life won't always go according to plan.

If you want to achieve your goals, you are going to have to recover from setbacks along the way.

Being POSITIVE will help you do this. 

Research tells is that being POSITIVE has an impressive list of benefits:

  • you are tougher mentally
  • you stick with things for longer
  • you will be happier, healthier and live longer

A POSITIVE attitude will help you to look for solutions and ideas to make things better- solving problems is a vital skill for you to have in your life.

POSITIVITY helps you to feel good about yourself, about others, and the world around you.

how to use positivity

Let's use a difficult example to illustrate how you can use positivity in a not very positive situation. 

Let's imagine that you had a big fall out with your best friend, and as a result they are no longer your best friend.

Now that's a tough one, right?

If this happened to you, you would have felt really bad at the time and would probably still feel sad and upset.

So what do you do?

Here's what we do below... we remember our 123.

applying 123 to our example


  • 1
    I now have lots of new friends.


  • 1
    I can't control what other people say and do, but I can control what I say and do.
  • 2
    I should not worry so much about what people think.


  • 1
    Not to worry when things don't go well because it will work out fine in the end.
  • 2
    Speak to an adult when things go wrong- I got some great advice from Mum.
  • 3
    Make sure that I apologise quickly when I do something wrong.

it's important to remember

Being POSITIVE doesn't change facts... instead it changes how you feel about them and what you then do about them.

We aren't suggesting that false positivity is good... there's no point saying that everything is AWESOME- when it isn't.

We aren't saying that PESSIMISM is bad either, in fact, sometimes it's incredibly useful- it's good to be prepared if things don't go to plan

What we are saying though, is that it's extremely useful to be able to think positively and to recognise that no matter the situation, it's an experience you can learn from.

let's put this into practice

You have a good understanding of POSITIVITY and why it is a really useful tool.

Positivity is a great way to help you be RESILIENT.

Now it's time for you to experience how this process works by applying 123 to a real life situation from your past- go to page 11 in your activity booklet.

are you up for a challenge?

Your mission this week is to TRAIN YOUR BRAIN to look for POSITIVITY.

Positive things happen all the time, it's just that we don't always notice it.

We like to fill our sheet in every night just before bed, as it's a really nice way to go to sleep... thinking good, happy and positive thoughts.

On page 12 of your activity sheet you will find your challenge this week