THE BEST ME
lesson 1: what is bravery?
If HOPE is perhaps the most important POWER STRENGTH, then BRAVERY is possibly the most difficult to master.
Because in order to be BRAVE you have to face your FEARS, and that isn't always easy to do.
But, you are going to learn how you can do this in this BRAVERY module.
what is fear?
Fear is an emotional response we have to a real or perceived threat.
We aren't talking about fear of things like flying, spiders or clowns here, they are phobias.
Although both fear and phobias come from the same place; our thinking.
Fear can be a good thing, it can save your life if you sense danger, but we are not talking about that kind of fear either.
Instead we are talking about fears that get in the way of us doing things in life, e.g: fear of speaking out, fear of what someone might say, fear of not getting the result we want, fear of letting someone down, fear of trying something new, etc...
The type of fear that gets in the way of you being the BEST YOU.
fear and thinking
It is our thinking about a particular thing of situation that causes us to generate the emotion of fear within us (not the thing itself).
And because we have this understanding of how thought works, we know how to deal with fear.
And the first thing is, we need to know where the thinking is coming from.
fear- behind the scenes
If we take a look behind the scenes there are really only 2 fears.
Behind every single FEAR that you can think of lies either:
- 1the fear of failing
- 2the fear of the unknown
1. the fear of failing
We fear failing for a number of reasons:
- 1we don't like looking stupid in front of other people
- 2unconsciously we don't want to expend mental or emotional resources for an outcome we don't want
- 3we don't want to feel that we aren't good enough
- 4we don't want to feel that we aren't loved
2. the fear of the unknown
We fear the unknown because:
- 1we like certainty, it makes us feel safe and secure
- 2we may get into situations that we think that we can't cope with
- 3not knowing what is going to happen makes us feel uncomfortable
- 4we may try our best and it might not be enough
bravery and the path of life
As you can see below, we are going to need to use the POWER STRENGTH of BRAVERY quite a bit.
You need your BRAVERY to start your journey (with ZEST of course).
You need your BRAVERY to overcome the challenges you face.
You need your BRAVERY to create and try the CREATIVE solutions you come up with.
You need your BRAVERY to act after FAILING- knowing that you might FAIL again.
You need to use your BRAVERY to live the life you want.
All of these involve dealing with the fear of failing or the fear of unknown.
3 steps to being brave
We have a 3-step process that is going to help you to access your BRAVERY:
- 1learn to deal with the fear of failure
- 2learn to deal with the fear of the unknown
- 3learn to deal with fear itself
You will start learning these in the next lesson.
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