Let's get you thinking ...
If you said 'from me', then you were correct.
Happiness, or any other emotion that you feel, comes from you, not from the object.
This might sound a little bit confusing, so we explain more below.
inside-out or outside-in?
As human beings we ALL make one big fundamental mistake in the way that we think that life works.
We think that our feelings are caused by the things that happen to us.
From the outside-in.
For example, when we do well in an exam or our team wins a game, we think that it's this external event that causes us to feel happy.
We think the same thing when bad things happen too- e.g. we fail an exam.
We believe that it's us failing the exam that causes us to feel sad.
But in reality happiness, sadness, or any
other feeling, only ever comes from inside us.
It is a feeling we create by our thought in the moment.
Our thinking creates what we feel.
The act of doing well in the test did not cause us to feel happy.
Instead, it was our thinking about doing well in the test that was the cause of the feeling of happiness.
And that's the same with every feeling we have in life.
We generate it inside of us based on our thinking in the moment.
We want to be our BEST SELVES each day.
We want to approach each day feeling happy and positive, with ZEST.
This will help us to give each day our best, with energy and enthusiasm.
Which means that we need to have positive, happy THOUGHTS in order to FEEL positive and happy.
step 2: get into a good feeling
Gratitude is the key to unlocking these positive and happy thoughts.
According to research, daily gratitude practice has lot of benefits:improved physical and mental health, better sleep, less stress and higher self-esteem.
We like it because:
So, step 2 of your new morning routine is to feel GRATITUDE.
You are going to write down something that you are grateful for and then give at least one reason why you are grateful for it.
What you are grateful for can be big or small; you can be grateful for the fact that you are alive, the wind on your face, your dog jumping on you, or maybe your family or friends.
Try it now below:
What you write down isn't important, it's feeling grateful that counts.
The key is to just let that feeling of gratitude sit with you for a few seconds- the longer the better.
Just close your eyes and think about what you have written about.
See if you can get to 10 seconds...
Simple isn't it?
Just thinking about things that you are grateful for puts you in a good mood and an elevated state of mind.
Inside out vs outside in.
You don't have to save this technique for the morning, you can use it anytime.
If you notice that you are feeling down or grumpy, just stop for a moment and spend a few seconds thinking about something in your life that you are grateful for.
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