resilience and the fear of failing

Here's a 3-step approach you can take to help you deal with your biggest resilience challenge- helping your deal with the fear of failure

fear of failing

No one likes to fail.

But, to be successful at anything, you often have to fail lots of times.

Which means that unless your child gets comfortable with this fear, they run the risk of not fulfilling their potential.

This fear may present itself in different ways, but like any good doctor, to find the cure to this problem you need to  go beyond the symptoms and look for the underlying cause.

And your child's fear of failure (like almost all fears) is about one thing:

'the fear of not being good enough'

Which means that the solution is to help your child to develop the belief and confidence in themselves to feel good enough, to feel worth it, to feel comfortable with making mistakes and failing.

You can't just force your child to act... that will only amplify their fear and can have far reaching psychological implications.

The best way to help them is to take a positive approach, to build their confidence and resilience in 2 ways.

1. understanding

help your child to gain a deeper understanding of who they are and what they are capable of helps build genuine  confidence and self-belief

2. resources

help your child to develop the attributes they need to be BRAVE, to tackle their fears and to the resources to become more resilient

step1: understanding

How do you help your child understand themselves, to know who they really are and what they are capable of?

CHARACTER STRENGTHS.

Character Strengths are the positive parts of personality that influence how you think, feel and behave. 

Scientists have identified 24 universal character strengths that we all have- see below.

Character strengths reflect the "real" you—who you are at your core. 

Understanding their unique blend of these strengths is the first step towards your child feeling that they are 'good enough', to developing inner confidence and self-belief .

step 2: develop resources

The key strength that will help your child to face their fear is BRAVERY.

However, being brave on its own is not enough to be resilient, your child needs to develop other areas as well.

We have identified 6 key character strengths that are essential to resilience: ZEST, HOPE, CREATIVITY, SELF-REGULATION, BRAVERY & PERSEVERANCE. 

Life is full of ups and downs, developing these 6 strengths will give your child the skills and the confidence to be able to deal with whatever comes their way.

In order to become the resilient and confident person you know they can be, your child will need to learn:

  • to approach life with the ZEST and energy needed to tackle the challenges and obstacles they face
  • to have a HOPEFUL attitude: to be positive about themselves, their life, their effort and their outcomes
  • to develop SELF-REGULATION; the focus, and the discipline needed to achieve their goals and to be successful
  • how to think CREATIVELY so they can solve the problems and the challenges they will face
  • to develop their BRAVERY so they can overcome rejection and learn to embrace failure rather than fear it
  • to PERSEVERE, so that they can keep going when all looks lost, to bounce back and to not give up: to be resilient

Imagine how brave and resilient your child would be if they developed these strengths?

how do you do all this?

We have developed character strengths based tool that helps kids understand who they are and teaches them the skills they need to develop the 6 key strengths of resilience: THE BEST ME THAT I CAN BE.

Part-manual, part-workbook and part-journal, it is designed to take your child on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

It's a blueprint for their success in school and for their life beyond the classroom.

And, its the life manual that we wish that we'd had when we were growing up.

the best Me contains

  • 98 pages that will inspire your child to explore who they really are and discover what they are truly capable of
  • a powerful program of lessons based on the scientific fields of positive psychology and character strengths
  • real world activities and challenges that will help your child to build genuine self-belief and the confidence to be their best selves
  • your child will learn how to be CREATIVE, BRAVE & RESILIENT and develop a POSITIVE MINDSET, SELF-MOTIVATION and DISCIPLINE
  • you will gain a deeper insight into their life, their dreams and their goals so you can help to guide them along their life journey
  • your child will develop the resources to overcome any of the challenges, obstacles, setbacks and failures that life will throw their way
  • a fun, simple to use, interactive and thought provoking investment in your child and their future

A digital pdf download for you to print at home, also includes a separate FREE strength building activity workbook.

full 30 day money back guarantee

preview: take a closer look at what's inside

Here's a preview of some of the 98 pages...

2 options for you

  1. 1
    WORKBOOKS ONLY: THE BEST ME workbook + the FREE strengths building workbook
  2. 2
    FULL SUPPORT: both workbooks + lifetime membership to a private Facebook community. 

FULL SUPPORT means we'll be there to guide and support you and your child along this journey- whenever you need it.

You can ask us direct questions, we post daily hints and tips and you'll get a free strength/ life skill building activity each month to help your child develop even further. 

(The normal cost for this is £60, but for today only you get to enjoy this benefit for as long as you want for just £7).

both options enjoy a full 30 day money back guarantee

the best you that you can be

THE BEST ME is a brilliant self-help guide and based on personal experience we totally recommend doing it alongside your kids- (just buy one and print out 2 copies at home).

  • It will help you to become the best version of you too- rediscover your passion and become the person you always knew you could be.
  • By doing it together you will both gain a deeper understanding of their true nature, their unique strengths, abilities, and what they are capable of. They will also get to know you a bit better too.
  • You will enjoy a much DEEPER CONNECTION and BETTER RELATIONSHIP with your child built on understanding and trust.
  • You will be a much more POSITIVE PARENT, instead of parenting by correcting your kids' mistakes- you will look for what your kids are doing right instead of wrong, be more supportive and inspiring.

what others say about our work

The main focus is to help you discover your own values and put your own plan into action, as opposed to telling you what to do.

LAURA CLARK​// The Butterfly Mother

It is presented in a very straightforward and easy to read manner and I can already see that there is value in the takeaway.

ALICIA ANTONIO// The Bottle Poppin Mamma

teach your kids recommendation
I would highly recommend to any parent needing to get in the here and now of parenting… but also who wants to look to the future too.

TALYA STONE​// Motherhood: The Real Deal

faqs

WHO IS THIS  FOR?

It's for your tween and/or teen. Whether they are struggling or not, it will help them to understand themselves and develop the attitude, techniques and skills they need for a successful life. 


HOW MUCH TIME IS INVOLVED?

There is no set duration. Your child should complete THE BEST ME in the time frame that's appropriate to them. The workbook is a journey of discovery and it encourages your child to practice their new skills in the real world through weekly challenges, so your child will be working on themselves all the time.

However, in terms of actual time commitment, from start to finish we would estimate around 8 weeks with an hour or so a week that should be allocated to actual 'work'.


WHO ARE YOU?

We are parents too (11-year-old twins). We realised that success in life is more than just qualifications and a good CV, and yet this is all that parents and schools seem to focus on.

So we started out by trying to teach our twins life skills in a deliberate and structured way. Our initial research told us that other parents were worried that their kids weren’t getting this type of education either, so we created Lifehacksforkids to fulfil that need. You can read more about us here.


WHAT IF IT'S NOT RIGHT FOR MY CHILD?

No problem! 

Send us an email: dominic@lifehacksforkids.co.uk and we will refund you right away, no questions asked.